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My Dad Loved Me

Fathers’ Day. This is always a hard one for me, I’m always happy to see it go.

Today we will visit Brian’s father. I am grateful for him. He invented the lightweight acoustic bass I play. He raised my wonderful husband and is an accepting and loving man, but he is not my father.

My father died when I was 14, and he was 40. It was just a tragedy all the way around. I still think of him nearly every day.

Daddio taught me to sing harmony. I remember exactly where we sat, what the room looked like, the deep blue carpet and his modern reclining chair with ottoman, the fireplace right there, the book (a hymnal…  the perfect book for teaching harmony).

He had us both sing the melody together. He had us both sing the harmony together. Then he told me to sing the harmony line and he intended to sing the melody. As a young girl would do, I followed his voice and sang melody with him.

So he stopped and tried again. He changed gears and told me to sing the melody, and no matter what he did, to ignore him and keep singing the melody. So we tried again and he sang harmony with me. It was wonderful. My world changed. Magic entered my life at that moment.

Then he sang the melody and I sang the harmony. And my life is much better because of my ability to create harmony. It is second nature to me now, absolutely part of my being.

I sang with Brian two hours last night at Altu’s Ethiopian Cuisine (this photo is from 2005, same place). I sometimes sang lead, sometimes harmony. Sometimes we whistled together in harmony as well.

Daddy is still alive in my life. I miss you, Daddio.

5 Responses to “My Dad Loved Me”

  1. Priscilla Says:

    This is very nice, Lynn. Very moving.

  2. Snowbird Says:

    “If you were all alone in the universe with no one to talk to, no one with which to share the beauty of the stars, to laugh with, to touch, what would be your purpose in life? It is other life, it is love, which gives your life meaning. This is harmony. We must discover the joy of each other, the joy of challenge, the joy of growth.” — Mitsugi Saotome

  3. Jan Says:

    I really don’t know what to say. I’m really missing my dad today as well. I’m thankful I had him until I was an adult. Can’t imagine what I’d turn out like if he wasn’t around to validate me (I inherited my wacko gene from him).

    How wonderful that you have carried and shared his gift to you all these years.

    PS…LOVE the photo. Never realized how much you look like mom!

  4. Carolyn Says:

    What is religious in a traditional way?

  5. Sriyana Says:

    I think you look just like your dad! That’s really beautiful that he taught you to sing harmony, and now you sing harmony with your husband. Your dad would be very proud, I’m sure.

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